First off I would like to apologize for my very long pause between posts. It’s been a crazy few months since I got married.. A million things have happened, and I will explain everything in time. First of all, the wedding was amazing! If you haven’t gotten a chance to look at the video I posted, take a look! It was very short but very sweet and to the point. All of our friends and family were there, and it was an amazing opportunity to show everyone just how special our relationship is.
I lucked out because it was ridiculously bright out, and so me and all of my groomsmen got to wear shades, which hid the fact that my eyes absolutely poured tears of happiness when I first saw Lauren being escorted down the aisle by her father. I’ve never seen anything more beautiful in my life. I will also say, that the reception was pretty damn awesome as well. When you have that many close friends and family together in one place, mixed with a slight amount of alcohol… It leads to an amazing night! Special thanks to our entire wedding party for everything that you did to help us with our special day. I really believe that everything went as well as it possibly could have, and I’m sure everyone will remember it for a long time.
Now on to the real exciting news! We are no longer apartment dwellers! During the time that I’ve been absent from my blog posts, we bought a freaking house! Yep! A real house! And it’s not just a house.. It’s the friggin fortress of solitude! It’s everything I’ve always wanted in a house! I always told lauren, if I were to put myself into lifelong debt to buy a house, it would have to follow a few simple rules. It would have to be outside of the city limits, I’m done with living in the city and its noise and traffic.. But it would also have to be conveniently located close to a grocery store and or convenience store. We got everything that we asked for and so much more! Its exactly one-half mile outside of the city limits, super quiet, less than 2 miles from a great grocery store, and less than 1 minute away from a great kwik trip that has everything we need as far as necessities. Now mind you, the house does not come without its share of problems. We are dealing with these as they come, and let me tell you there are not a small number of them. The previous owners of this house did a lot of work on the place, and made some great improvements. But, it seems that the previous owner was also a complete moron. As many things that he did well, he also left lots of bad s*** for me to deal with. So we are loving what we have, and saving up to fix what we have not. I will get into more details later. I just wanted to let everyone know that I’m sorry for being a super slacker, and from now on I will be doing regular updates to this blog. Please bear with me, it’s going to take a little bit of effort to get back into the swing of things, but now that I have most of the major repairs under control I can finally take a little bit of time and work on updating you on our lives! Until next time… I hope everyone is making it through this crappy freezing cold winter! Take care and I will post again very soon stay warm!
Ok.. Here you go. The wedding.
Wow. I’m getting married tomorrow. I can’t believe it’s here! Lauren is out with her mother doing last minute (day) stuff. I just finished writing my vows. It’s kind of surreal. So many emotions going through my mind.
I was married once before, and it was absolutely horrible. It was the worst 15 months of my life. I got married for the wrong reasons and it was a complete failure. I never thought I would ever get married again.
Meeting Lauren was the best thing that ever happened to me. Although the first year or 2 we were just friends, but growing closer every day. She frequently asked why we didn’t date, and I quickly shot her down because I was scared. For so many reasons. I was scared of what people would think and I was scared that I was not strong enough to be in a relationship with someone that was disabled like she was. I couldn’t see past the chair. But as our friendship grew, I realized that she was an amazing girl in every way, and that chair just kind of faded away. She was not a girl in a wheelchair, she was this amazing person that I was damn privileged to have in my life. She became my confidant and my rock. She gives me so much happiness and fulfillment in my life, that the only way I can ever begin to repay her is to devote my life to taking care of her and making her happy. And it’s been the best time of my life.
Am I scared of the future? Hell yes! I’m afraid of not being good enough for her and that I can’t take care of her the way she deserves. I’m still learning every day how to care for her. She is my precious. I want only the very best for her. So I learn how to do hair. And I constantly try to come up with new awesome things to cook for her. But I’m afraid that I’m going to mess up. She is so patient with me and I just want to give her the best life that I can. Am I Going to give it everything i have? You betcha!
So yeah, we have the rehearsal in 3 hours. Wish me luck. I’ll be a married man by the time I post again.
Call off the search. I’m not dead! I know I kind of dropped off the face of the earth after getting to WALH camp, but I had next to no reception on my phone, and most of my time was spent doing awesome things. I promise I will get this rolling again. I took some pictures and video at camp, and will be talking about the amazing time I had in an upcoming post. But today I want to talk about something that happened yesterday. I’m not mad about it or anything, just a little frustrated at how invisible and out of thought people with disabilities are in our society.
Now you all know that Lauren is my full time job. But in order to get paid to do it, I have to be employed by a homecare agency. I’ve been working for this particular agency for over 2 years and they are great. I don’t hold anything against them. I received a call from one of the girls in the office last week, telling me about the “worker appreciation day” event they were having on this Tuesday (yesterday). It was going to be happening during the time I had to go get Lauren from her job, and so I told her I might not be able to make it or at least not stay very long. She told me to bring Lauren along and that there would be catered food. Well, she had me at food, so I asked Lauren if she could get off early for it. She decided to skip her lunch and get off an hour early. Anyway, I pick her up tuesday and we head off to the event starving. We got there and went inside, but the place was empty and even the lights were off in the hallway. I noticed a paper sign pointing down the hall for employees, so we followed it and met one of the ladies that work in the office who asked me if I was there to pick up my check. I said that we were there for the appreciation dinner and she responded with “Oh! Everyone is downstairs. Go on down!” Downstairs… And by that she really meant down a long flight of stairs to tye basement. Umm I asked her how Lauren was going to get down a flight of stairs? They asked me specifically to bring Lauren and didn’t even think about her when they decided to hold the thing in the basement. I was pretty annoyed since we both skipped lunch for it. The alternative options were being thrown at us such as “why don’t you go down and get her some food and we can set up a little table for you in one of the offices!” No thanks. I try to make sure Lauren is included in my everything. And eating alone in an office during a party isn’t what I’d call inclusion. So I just asked for my paycheck and we went to Pizza Hut. Again, I’m not mad at them at all. Mistakes get made. It happens. It just sucks that an agency that takes care of disabled people would overlook something as big as making sure the place they are holding an event like this is accessible to everyone that is expected to be there. And dammit, the food looked really good! So yeah I just needed to get that out of my brain so i can move on. On a brighter note, they gave me an award for “most quantity of hours” because I apparently work more hours per week than any of their other employees. Yay me!
Turns out you CAN light a fire with wet wood, some pine ones and 2 tampons!
Ahhhhhh.. Camp! Got to camp yesterday about 4:30. Unloaded all of our stuff into our room and then went off to the dining hall to eat and spend a couple of hours hanging out with all our friends. One of the campers and her husband had Famous Dave’s cater an awesome dinner for us! Thanks so much for that!
As soon as I got out of the van I felt at home again! The feeling you get when you finally walk into your house exhausted, after a long trip. It’s amazing! All of our friends eventually arrived and after dinner, everyone split off and did their own thing. Lauren and I made a nice fire and spent some time with some of our closest buds. Great night!
Today we got up at noon and went to the hall for lunch. Now I’m sitting on a bench enjoying the cool weather, while Lauren is hangin out with a couple of her friends. It’s so nice! They have been discussing personal horror stories about accessibility. It seems everyone has had bad experiences involving getting in and out of buildings and no one knows the ADA laws. I’m so sick of not being able to find a handicapped parking space, and having to be a gymnast holding 2 doors open so Lauren can drive through. Being “accessible” means more than painting a wheelchair on a regular parking spot.
We have a restaurant near us that has one handicap spot. It has ONE curb cutout for the entire building. BUT, they don’t have any curb stoppers along the building, so when cars pull up to the regular spots, their hoods block the entire sidewalk! Umm that’s not accessible.
Now the group had grown to 10. 5 people in chairs and 5 attendants. It’s cool to have a place to just hang out and discuss the issues that they relate to every day. This place rocks. There is no “disability” here. Just a ton of cool people hanging out and having fun. And when someone needs help with something, everyone helps out. Everyone here can do anything in the world, with a little help.
Well that last 10% was a bitch! But we have officially left the house! Grabbing a quick bite at Denny’s and then we are on our way! I can’t believe how much stuff we needed to pack! I’m so excited to see all of our friends! I have met so many awesome people from camp and every year a few new people come. I just wish it was a bit warmer. Lauren is a total wuss when it comes to cold weather. Lets hope the rest of the week is warmer. I packed a hoodie for her in case it gets too bad, but for me I love it since I sweat like a pig in hot weather.
Anyway, foods here. I’ve decide to call people that go to WALH camp “WALHDOS”
So I’ll see you guys soon!